I use GitLab for my projects, their CI works well enough but only if you host your own runners. GitLab's atrociously garbage free CI minutes mean that CI as a merge request validation step is basically impossible, as merge requests' CI runs on the submitter's account and runners not your project's runners and if the submitter doesn't have any CI minutes (they almost certainly won't) then the jobs don't run. It used to be awesome before they nerfed their CI into the ground.

it seems like the up and comer is Codeberg/Forgejo but I haven’t gotten into how their CI/CD story is. Gitlab feels like a lateral move to me tbh

I use fogejo for my self-hosted stuff, and codeberg for my public stuff.

Are you thinking "large" in terms of codebase? Also, what does "safe" mean in this context?

@killyourfm selfhosting with gitea or forgejo is the way to go. maybe a github mirror to be found but nothing else

@Codeberg is a place where many projects are moving to. It's a forejo instance, community based, not company based.