To every guy who came into the comments on my Gisele Pelicot article to yell “not all men” at me and demand I give due deference to the good guys… It’s time to be quiet.
An investigation uncovered more than 70,000 users in Telegram group chats admitting to raping women and sharing tips on how to sedate them.
This investigation came out right after the verdict in the landmark Gisele Pelicot mass rape trial - which saw her ex husband sentenced to 20 years in prison and another 50 men found guilty of sexual assault.
Gisele was drugged by her husband for over a decade - and assaulted by at least 80 men.
Since writing about her case and why shame must change sides - I’ve endured a slew of abuse that ranges from “not all men” rallying cries to men telling me that I would be happier if I adopted more traditional values - and everything in between.
I’ve been called every slur you can think of.
I’ve been told that if I were more appreciative of men I wouldn’t be so “angry”. I’ve been labeled a misandrist and accused of not being supportive enough of the opposite sex.
I’ve been informed that it’s a woman’s job to prevent assault - and that she needs to take that job more seriously.
We take it very seriously. We can’t stop you from raping us.
If we could - there would be no more rape.
We’ve fought for decades against the patriarchal, misogynistic rape culture that leads to so much suffering and abuse … we need YOU to fight now.
There’s a certain perverseness in demanding a victim show more respect for the opposite sex while you show her absolutely no respect at all.
These men are so busy trying to make sure the internet knows they’re “good men” that they can’t even see how horrifically they’re behaving.
Or maybe they can see - and they simply don’t care.
I genuinely don’t know anymore. All I know is that no matter how many times I explain that while it’s not all men - I can’t know which men it is - the message is not sinking in.
It NEEDS to sink in.
Rape is not some rare event that is carried out by a stranger who was hiding in the bushes … it’s almost always someone we know.
As the article linked above proves - men will go to great lengths to sedate their partners, wives, girlfriends etc just so they can harm them.
They’re hiding drugs in hair products. They’re swapping tips on the internet. They’re inviting other men over to harm the women who’ve trusted them with their safety.
This is a huge fucking problem. It’s not an anomaly. It’s not something to be swept under the rug.
We won’t be silent anymore.
We are going to keep being loud. We will keep calling this behaviour out wherever we see it
Rape culture thrives in the dark. Abusers count on the shame their victims will feel as a way to keep them quiet.
Gisele Pelicot has encouraged all victims to speak up. It is not our shame - it’s theirs.
Please join us. Demand better of your fellow man. Loudly condemn these despicable acts.
Show us that you’re one of the good guys by being a true ally - not by yelling over us on the internet.
Listen. Pay attention. Speak up if you see someone being harmed.
We won’t go gently. It’s time for change.
telegraph.co.uk/world-news/202…
My article on Gisele Pelicot, medical misogyny & why disabled people face increased risk: disabledginger.com/p/gisele-pe…
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Users from multiple countries have been sharing tips on how to sedate and sexually assault women, German investigation finds
Jörg Luyken (The Telegraph)
