Apparently there was at least one #suicide after the #39c3

I read the thread of that person suicide note and how people were responding to it. Like the list of classical well-intending condolences. And again it was a #queer person with traumatic experiences and bullying experience.

That reminded me on my ostracism from my hackspace and my own bullying experience, with the usage of pseudo-medicalized speech which ended in declaring myself as a "problematic person" which was worthy to kick out and ban forever from that space.

I know people who suffered almost the same fate and were run into the ground by their social death (ostracism) and who were on the edge to suicide.

I sat at the end in one of those workshops at the congress related to "mental health" and it was more about knowing resources, than helping to build better communities, where its less possible to push people over the edge.

I talked with people there how they were kicked from spaces, how they felt #shame on a regular basis. Workshops can't fix that that your communities are frozen hell-holes, where perfectionism and shaming people for being off the expected norm is what it is all about.

The chaos should be more about for people to "sit down, grab a tea and be welcome" than to first "make a cool project and then being respected". And when you are once part of a community, this is a fundamental right, not something which changes with the air humidity on each day.

You don't exclude people for who they are. And if you think that there are "patterns" worth of doing that, then I disagree with you. There must be a better way to at least allow a respectful empathic departure and a respectful re-integration of people who infringed on community norms. Anything else is not what I consider "left".